"it didn't work"

Finding a therapist is like finding a hair stylist or car mechanic -- if you find one that seems worthless, you don't just give up -- you find another. I hear people say, "I tried going to counseling but it didn't work," quite frequently. Somebody needs counseling -- psychotherapy -- and tries and hates it and quits. The fact is, finding a therapist you can work with is sometimes tough and can take a few trials and errors before you get it right. Finding a match with a therapist is very much like finding a match with a hair stylist or mechanic. Some do several kinds of thing really well and are very poor at others. If you go to a hair stylist and come home looking like a poodle, or come home feeling and looking like your hair didn't get cut at all, you don't give up having your hair cut ever again (well, anyway you don't have to). Clearly, you may decide it's wise not to keep going back to that stylist.

If you complain to your hair stylist that you look like a poodle, you don't let the stylist tell you that it's your hair's fault unless you're pretty sure that's possible. You try another stylist. IF you have two or three or more hair stylists tell you it's your hair, THEN ask what can be done about it because maybe it is your hair that's causing the problem. The same goes for therapists.